Ermahgerd … a reunion!

Cut and paste from my note on the reunion board:

[ 20] Tharius: Reunion 2014, 20 years!
Fri Jul 18 13:19:01 2014
To: You!

Dateline: Cambridge

Sources reveal that Mrs. Thoric, aka Jane-who-does-not-play has invited the
Realms community to attend a BBQ to commemorate the 20th Anniversary of the
Realms of Despair!

The details are posted at
and are visible without a FB account. If you would like an RSVP posted
without creating a Facebook account please drop me a mudmail and I will be
happy to cut and paste for you.

(I am not affiliated with the event, just spreading the word, all credit
and props to Jane-who-does-not-play and her assembled team of minions.

If you are not on Facebook and somehow read this blog and would like your name passed to Jane, please let me know “somehow”.



I am planning to attend and made sure to extend the invitation to my the rest of my household.  So if you’re in the situation of inviting a significant other who barely understands why you stare at text for hours on end and call it fun to a BBQ for said text game, you should be familiar with the “are you out of your mind” look.

Jane’s invitation for people to feel free to cosplay had her eyebrows up and asking “Uhm, they don’t expect everyone to dress up do they?”.  You know what, given the general level of geek out there perpetuated by Big Bang Theory and various ComicCons, I’m going to give her that one.  The answer is “no, of course not”.  At least for me it is 🙂  Over the years I have observed a wide variety of costumes but for the most part, I think the accepted uniform is “wear whatever you are going to be comfortable in” 🙂

So if your guest is thinking that they will be the only one there who doesn’t get it and doesn’t know what it’s about, fear not!  Along with Jane-who-does-not-play there will be one other and my mini-me in attendance looking to make fun of … well me anyway.

… and just so you know why I don’t even attempt to cosplay … from Hallowe’en many, many moons ago.

Tharius (Hallowe'en 1998)
Tharius (Hallowe’en 1998)


Picnics and Renfairs and Pubs! Oh my! Stoneheft remembers …

One of the real characters of Realms is Stoneheft.  He’ll lurk about for a while and then hit you with something that either makes you really think or makes you spit milk out your nose.  I recall with muddled clarity some of the events described here … For those that never attended one of those long ago reunions, we essentially took over a chunk of the Ontario Renaissance Festival for a good part of the day, usually followed by small group activities and finally landing at the Fox and Fiddle.  When the Ontario Renaissance Festival folded up shop and closed its gates the event moved to different public parks and campgrounds.

This series was inspired in part by my disappointment at there not being an organized Realms of Despair Reunion this year due to lack of committed attendees but I hear that the Texas Get-Together may happen.  Huzzah if it does! 🙂  Maybe some of Stoneheft’s recollections might inspire you to answer “YES!” the next time someone asks if you want to come out to a reunion:


“So many years have gone by with so many varying types of reunions. My memories are inaccurate and likely filed out of order, but there sure are a lot of memories. Back in the pre-history days, there were the idirect picnics, or were those I don’t remember which was first but I remember deciding to go to one because Grace Gemstone was going. Loril and I were curious about meeting the player behind the mother of our favorite characters, so the “Going to these things” had begun.

The venues got better as the gatherings became “Realms of Despair Reunions” rather than ISP picnics. We had fun every year at the Renaissance Festivals, met Edmond, Dria, Kali, and so many others. We played with the swords at the shops, won many pints of beer at the games that were awfully easy, completed the RL quests that Dria put together and got to know the players behind the characters we knew. Absolute tonnes of fun were had, and then we’d head off to that loud bar in Oakville and settle down over a few drinks. We met Destre at one of these old RenFests, in good weather Destre, her husband, Loril and I get together to try out a new or known pub.

After a fairly pleasant day, at a RenFest, way out in Milton, the evening was getting unpleasantly rainy and everyone was getting on with getting home. Making our way out to the muddy field that passed for a parking lot, we merged with the crowd passing through the gate and found Hubris trying to arrange a ride home. It turns out he lives about 25 blocks away from us, so we crammed him into the back seat of the little Volkswagen Cabriolet with Dyrk and headed back to the City. Fortune smiled on us, Hubris likes both beer and the Pub between his place and ours. We hit the patio with him at least once a summer for burgers and beers.

Hoerkin found us. Loril and I were enjoying a RenFest when a big guy with his nametag torn came up and announced “Hey, I’m Hoerkin!”. He was correct, I can appreciate when someone knows who they are, so we added Hoerkin to our little group, then Ceirana, and continued along completing Dria’s RenFest RL quest. We must have had fun. I remember Hoerkin’s nametag was eventually ripped down to just “Ho” and wouldn’t stay stuck to his sweatty shirt. Sweatty Ho became a very good friend. He does, of course, like beer.

The reunions changed when Milton’s RenFest closed. There was the year at the Botanical Gardens in Hamilton, and the community camping at Bingeman’s. In the first year, we tented it and had a great time but decided on splurging for a cabin in the following years. Many hours gathered many great memories out on the porch of that cabin. Grishnakh could keep a conversation going, he knew things and had such interesting opinions and ideas about stuff in game and RL.

Alex, oh where do I start. Alex can keep a conversation going all weekend and never drop below fascinating. So long as nobody is eavesdropping we probably won’t even get silenced or banned. Time moves on. The venue changes to Orr’s Lake where Thoric and Jane who does not mud host the gang personally. Loril and I are no longer able to put in a whole weekend, but Bulgroth went and had a good time. Loril and I visit for an afternoon and find Jane’s theatre group putting on a “theatrical swordfighting” demonstration. How awesome was that?

Reunions… Good Memories.

Thanks to all of you, mentioned here or not, the reunions are a great extension of our MUD.

Thanks for 20 years.”